Want not need
Maybe the only practical thing I managed to learn at my law school was the sensitivity towards words. In the legal industry, each word has its own specific meaning and tonality. In other words, all words are different.
In a situation where a regular person will not see any difference, a lawyer will see a totally other meaning.
Let’s take a simple example.
“I want to eat something”, so “I need to order some food” or “I have to go to a grocery store.”
Except that I do not need to and I do not have to. It is still “I want to order some food” and “I want to go to a grocery store”. And I want to do all of these things simply because of the fact that I want to eat something.
My free will.
As a lawyer, I see “I want to order some food” and “I need to order some food” as two completely different situations with extremely different meanings.
When I say “I want to” – it always comes from my free choice. It is my personal decision whether or not to undertake any action. It is me to create energy and it is me to decide about how to use this energy.
When I say “I have/need to” – it seems like there is some condition, or liability, or obligation, which makes me behave this way. It shows that there was not much of my choice here – I was forced into some particular activity, which I might not want to do in the first place.
So “I have to order some food”, sounds like it is my duty to society.
While “I want to order some food”, sounds like it is my free will.
Making the difference between “want to” and “have to” will make a big impact on your life.
With “have/need to”, we create an illusionary burden on ourselves, which stresses us out from a creative activity. So you might be procrastinating only because you keep saying “I have to” to yourself. Since you are a free person and you do not like to feel obliged.
Try to change the wording and use “I want to” more often. And you will see that in most situations you will feel a sort of relief and even motivation for action. Since now it is not an external power to overload you with obligations, it is your free decision to have something accomplished.
In ByCycle Working Tool you only create work (tasks and projects) which you actually want to do. And then you add the work you want to accomplish this week to the Weekly Plan.
It will help you to stay motivated and focused – you created some work and now you will have it done.
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